On a Scale From 1 to 10: Where Does Your Life Rank?

Feb 18, 2014 8:10:12 PM

Shon Kokoszka, President of MAPS Business Coaching, had three goals for Family Reunion attendees when he stepped on stage at his recent ONE Thing presentation “Bridging the Gaps in Your Life.”

1. Discover any ineffectiveness in three areas of your life – your relationship to yourself, your relationship to your team, your relationship to your work.

2. Understand the source of any of that ineffectiveness.

3. To develop a plan to move away from all ineffectiveness.


“Today you’ll discover gaps exist in your world,” he said. “Be honest and authentic! Get real and get right! You’re going to get the most out of today by telling the truth.”

Shon ran an interactive ONE Thing experience, guiding the 500-person crowd through a series of self-rating sequences, something you and another person can do right now.

Ask yourself about your personal lives – your relationship with yourself – and rate it on a scale from 1 to 10, 10 being the best. Now ask your partner to recite their ratings and explain why they chose that number. After you’ve allowed the person to discuss their choice, reverse the roles. Now apply this activity to the eight key areas: physical health, finance, your Big Why, moving from E to P, productivity, customer service and leadership within you organization.

“Consciously people think that they choose their success,” he said. “But, people do not decide their future; they decide their habits.”

His aim in all this, was to move people from step 1 and 2 to step 3. “Logic makes us think; emotion makes us take action,” explained Shon. Rating yourself fulfilled step 1 by highlighting which areas of your life and business your scoring low in right now. Talking about the sources of your low and high points with someone will help you identify where the holes in your life may be stemming from – step 2. Now it’s time to take action.

“Focus on the plan, not the problem,” Shon explained. “When you develop a plan and focus on that, it pulls you to a future mind space, which is always beneficial.” To get to that solution – action plan – ask yourself the Focusing Question for each area you need to improve on. Set a goal for these categories and create a plan – 66-Day Challenge, build a GPS, find mentor, etc.

“Remember,” Shon closed, “when the why is big enough, the how simply shows up.”

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